We Lose Our Colour

Many of us face this problem, the problem that we might not be doing what we want to do, the problem that where we ended up today is due to the decisions of our parents and loved ones. Decisions that made for you because they think that it would be good for you. However, deep inside, you know that you want to be someone else, you want to do something else, a different degree, a different career, a different life path but… you let your parents decide because you think that they know what is the best choice for you. However, little do we know that for every decision that someone else makes for you be it important life choices of the food we eat for lunch, we slowly lose our colour. We slowly lose the colour that defines us as a person, as an individual. We slowly lose that colour that makes us who we are as a person, a person with their own brains and common sense to make the best decisions for themselves, a person who knows what is in their best interest. Unfortunately, that is not that case, we allow many people to decide our future for us and many of us are already losing our colour. We can see it, through our everyday actions from how confident and decisive we are when making a decision and how much we contribute to a group discussion.

Decisions that made for you because they think that it would be good for you. However, deep inside, you know that you want to be someone else, you want to do something else, a different degree, a different career, a different life path but… you let your parents decide because you think that they know what is the best choice for you. However, little do we know that for every decision that someone else makes for you be it important life choices of the food we eat for lunch, we slowly lose our colour. We slowly lose the colour that defines us as a person, as an individual. We slowly lose that colour that makes us who we are as a person, a person with their own brains and common sense to make the best decisions for themselves, a person who knows what is in their best interest. Unfortunately, that is not that case, we allow many people to decide our future for us and many of us are already losing our colour. We can see it, through our everyday actions from how confident and decisive we are when making a decision and how much we contribute to a group discussion.

However, it should not be that way. We can re-take control of our lives. We can start by understanding ourselves, by looking deep within ourselves to know who we truly are as a person such as our likes and dislikes and our interests. By understanding who we are, we will be able to better make judgements on whether things are in our best interest.

Sometimes we let others make the decisions for us because we are afraid of making a wrong one and ending up suffering for it because at least we know that if someone else decides it for us, we can blame it on them if it goes wrong. However, know that you do not need to be afraid of the consequences of a wrong decision, an advice that I need to listen and swallow whole. The consequences of a wrong decision are not as major as we see it in our minds. So what if you failed your first start-up, rebound and try again. So what if you lose most of your money, learn from the mistake and hustle on. Understand this, not one of the Greats achieve their greatness through luck and special opportunities alone. They worked hard and even if they had to risk everything and work through the dirt, they did it because they know that that is how someone reaches the clouds.

Listen, especially me, do not lose your colour. You have spent countless hours understanding who you are as a person, know that whatever consequences from your decisions in the future is your responsibility but no matter how bad it might be or how dark it is, it is how you learn from it that matters. People like Elon Musk and Sir Richard Branson know who they are as a person and what they want to achieve in this world and thus, they allowed their decisions to portray what their colours truly are.

Be yourself and let your colour flow.

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