Upon reaching our twenties, most of us want to be independent. We take flight from the nest as soon as we can, be it after we graduate from a Polytechnic, Junior College or University. We want to lead our own lives because we finally can. I’m in my twenties and I know how you feel. We want to embrace our new found freedom and finally, be an adult.
However, new found freedom comes with a need to be responsible. As we embrace the freedom of being an adult, some of us are still stuck in the mentality of a teenager. We are not able to grasp the concept of being responsible for our actions and we fail to realise that we are liable for everything that we do.
Maybe it is not our fault, we did spend 20 or so years under the shelter of our parents, being told what to do and when to do it. Some of us had curfews. Some of us had our whole life planned out by our parents from the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed and some of us do not even know how to stand up for ourselves, always hoping for our parents to step in when in trouble — Yes, I have met some people that are like that, unfortunately.
Maybe it is the way we were raised, maybe it is the education system, maybe it is even the fault of the society at large. There are so many reasons that might be the cause of this lack of responsibility in young adults and even though most of them are valid, we should not allow that to be the norm, forget about it and continue our irresponsible ways.
As much as I hate to say it, we still need guidance. Not guidance from our parents and teachers only but guidance from the seniors in life. Yes, our twenties is the time when we learn to manoeuvre life, yes, our twenties is the time when we learn things by doing and yes, our twenties is the time for us to be completely independent but think about it… Most of us were lost when we turn 20. We have no bloody idea how to lead life. For heaven’s sake, we just completed 16+ years of continuous schooling and the last time I checked, school teaches nothing about real life.
As we attempt to navigate the rough world just as we completed school, the lack of experience and sometimes an immature mindset might cause us to commit certain mistakes. Mistakes that could have been avoided if we had been humble enough to receive guidance.
The twenty-somethings need to know that becoming an adult comes with responsibility, responsibility for one’s actions. Whatever we do have consequences and sometimes, those consequences are irreversible.
Thus, I personally feel that we can learn a lot from the seniors of life. By tapping on their wealth of experiences, their knowledge and their thoughts, the twenty-somethings (including myself) can learn a lot about how to navigate through life and receive advice to tackle different situations. However, to do that, we have to be open-minded and be humble enough to accept their advice.
All twenty-somethings need to realise that we need help. Do not reinvent the wheel. Learn from those more senior than you, do not be arrogant, and accept guidance whenever you can.