What do I know?

What do I know about life?

I am just an adventurer. Just like you.

I discover and experience life along the way, trekking through the rough terrains that may pop up once in a while in life.

The lessons that I’ve learnt on this journey gives me the pieces of information I need to better understand the world. But it is tough for the universe does not reveal its secrets easily.

But I shall press on. I shall hike the highest mountain or dive deep into the oceans if I need to, for life is about experiencing its wonders. I believe that the best parts of life are in the struggle and not in the destination.

So, ultimately, I know nothing. Just like you, I am an empty slate, tainted by nothing. A slate that awaits to be filled with the secrets of the universe, the lessons of life. I hope that one day, I will be able to fill it completely.

 

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How I Wish I Have A Type ‘A’ Personality

How I wish I have a Type A personality.

There are two types of people in the world:

Type A and Type B.

If you’ve been surfing in the personal development/motivation part of the internet, you would have heard these terms thrown about quite often.

I first heard the term from Chase Jarvis who self-describe himself as having a type A personality. Other people to join this rank are Gary Vaynerchuk, Tim Ferris, Casey Neistat, Elon Musk and many other great entrepreneurs and creators.

Before we continue this discussion, let us define what are considered type A or type B personalities.

Based on Simplypsychology.org,

Type A personality: Competitive, Impatient, Aggressive, Fast-talking.

Type B personality: Relaxed, Non-Competitive, Express Emotions, More Reflective.

Image result for type a personality flowerIn general, people with type A personality are always on the ball. They experience a constant sense of urgency. However, they also short-change themselves by not being able to sit down and relax and enjoy the moment. In the words of Gary Vaynerchuk, they “suffocate” when they are not doing work because that is their “oxygen”. They are never satisfied with the status quo.

However, Type A personalities can sometimes be hostile. They “tend to be easily aroused to anger or hostility”. This might be a minor drawback to having this personality.

Even though that might be a drawback, I still believe that the competitiveness and time urgency characteristics of people with Type A personalities allow them to thrive in the working world and achieve the successes that they want.

I mean, overall, it really comes down to what you really want to achieve in life.

To me, I really want to be the best that I can be, to constantly improve myself. Therefore, a type A personality would be helpful for me to achieve that goal.

So, which type of personality do you have?

I Have to Start Taking My Own Advice

You know what,

I’m guilty of not taking and listening to my own advice and I realised that if I don’t start swallowing that bitter medicine, I wouldn’t be better than where I am today.

I mean, most of us are guilty of this.

We are guilty of giving advice to someone else that we, ourselves, will not practise. We tell others to work hard but we don’t. We tell others to aim for the stars but we don’t. We tell others to take the risk but we don’t.

And I realised that it is a lost on our part because most of the advice that we give others are actually effective and true.

We advise others to do the things we do not want to do because we envisioned them to be our stronger self, the successful self. We want them to achieve what we decided not to achieve even though we have the potential for it. We want them to succeed because we know that deep inside, it is a painful journey that we do not want to tread.

But ultimately, it is our lost. My lost.

So, I’ve decided to swallow that bitter medicine for my own good.

Every day, I regret the time wasted

At the end of every day, I regret the time I wasted doing nothing productive.

I regret the time I wasted procrastinating; watching videos, lounging around…

I regret it with a heavy heart.

But I cannot do anything about it.

The time had passed and gone.

However, what I can do is try again the next day, try again to be more productive, to complete the list of things I needed to do, to just not procrastinate.

But again, I fall into that treacherous trap.

I wasted time again…

What can I do to stop this endless maddening cycle?

I hate the feeling of regret but I still do it anyway.

And I keep on trying.

I would love to get some advice.

It’s All About Fitting In, Isn’t It?

Isn’t it?

Since we first enter school, all of us just wants to fit in, to be part of the crowd, to be accepted.

So, we decided to do all kinds of things that would allow us to be accepted. We dress differently, we change the way we talk, we do dumb things.

But is it all worth it?

Fitting in?

Maybe, maybe not.

Fitting in gives us a sense of social acceptance, knowing that we are part of a larger group. We are social creatures, we feel safer around others. By fitting in, we can depend on others for help, for comfort and maybe in evolutionary terms, for our own safety.

However, is there a fine line that we need to draw between being socially accepted into a group and discarding our unique identity?

Each of us is a unique individual with our own set of quirks and talents. As unique as we are as individuals, there is always an interest of ours that connects us with some other individual out there, a common interest.

Many individuals come together to form a social group. The personality of that group depends on the type of people that make up that group. A group full of motivated individuals would be motivated, a group full of artists would be highly inclined in creativity, and a group full rednecks would be loud, obnoxious and insane.

The fine line has to be drawn when that group starts to devour you, putting pressure on you to change against your own free will. They impose on you that you have to act a certain way, do certain things or dress a certain way to be accepted into the group.

I personally think that if you start to feel like you are not yourself, you are no longer being accepted but being controlled. Don’t think that you are fitting in when you’re in that situation. Find others.

I feel that being accepted shouldn’t come with unnecessary pressure to change and be someone else. The group should embrace you for being who you are and not wishing who you are not.

Find that group that you fit in naturally and not one that is artificial.

Take the good, leave the bad

Staunch perseverance.

Every single day, we receive criticisms from people at work, school, your friends and even from your loved ones.

Sometimes, those criticisms could be harsh, painful and plain disrespectful.

Some might even attempt to attack and crush your self-confidence.

But should we allow such criticisms to affect us?

Maybe.

Because, listen here,

They do not have control over your life, you do.

You decide how you want to run your life,

And deciding which criticisms to take is one of it.

Whatever criticisms that are thrown at you, take the good and leave out the bad.

Always be focused on improving yourself and those criticisms are a way for you to develop and grow.