I’m rushing to feel how it is like to be in a relationship. I’m rushing to feel that ‘spark of life’ that everyone talks about when they’re in love. I’m rushing and wanting to know how it is like, how magical they portrayed it to be.
But I know I shouldn’t. I shouldn’t as it is for my own good.
Such things shouldn’t be rushed. Such things can and should wait.
Wait for what you might ask?
For the right time.
I received a splendid advice from a friend of mine recently about relationships. He is getting married next year so I think his advice is pretty legit.
I’m paraphrasing but he said that if you want to be in a relationship, you have to have the intention of marrying the person you’re in a relationship with. If not, it will just be a waste of time. All fun and games. Put forth that intention to the other party clearly. Tell them your intention and see whether they are interested in your proposition. If not, they are not worth your time. Ultimately, people should enter a relationship because of marriage and not for the fun and games which can lead to maksiat, one way or another.
He said that I have to be patient. Build a strong foundation first. Fix yourself, build yourself up, get a career, have savings, do what you really want and then propose when you think you are ready.
You might ask, what if someone takes her away from you? He said to keep her close. To always be in her social circle. If she is meant for you, Allah SWT will make it easy for you at the right time. So be patient.
And I guess that is what I will be doing. It isn’t practical at all to be in a relationship now. It’ll affect school, family and so on and so forth. It is better to move from one chapter of life to the next, one by one, and not mash them up altogether.
Be patient, Hakim. May Allah SWT guide you to the right path. Amin.