Our Decisions

Our decisions and our actions are predicated based on an underlying motivation, whether we know it or not.

Most of the things that we do, we do it for our own self-interest, such as whether to procrastinate or do work, whether to exercise or eat fast-food. However, there are some decisions that we make that are influenced by the environment, for example, advertisements.

Thus, I think that it is important to be aware of such motivations that influence our decisions. Doing so will allow us to recognise the bad motivations from the good and override them when needed.

It prevents us from carrying out decisions that may not really be for our own self-interests or decisions that will be harmful to other people.


Everything is Figure Out-able

Recently, I watched an amazing interview by Chase Jarvis with Marie Forleo, a life coach, on 30 Days of Genius on CreativeLive. I have to say that so far, it is one of the best interviews of the 30 Days of Genius series. At first, I was clueless as to who Marie Forleo is and as I continued to watch the interview, I found myself nodding and agreeing with many of the things she said. The interview left me feeling inspired to create and I thank Chase for doing such an amazing series. One of the major things that I learned from the interview is that everything is figure out-able. It meant that there are many things in life that you will learn how to figure out along the way with no need of formal lessons or classes.

One of the major things that I learned from the interview is that everything is figure out-able. It meant that there are many things in life that you will learn how to figure out along the way with no need of formal lessons or classes. Be it starting a business or finding your life’s purpose, you will figure it out over time.

I realised that this is an important advice all of us have to take to heart. Most of us including myself are always cautious when making decisions because we are afraid of making a wrong one and regretting it in the future. However, when she said that most of the things in life are figure out-able, it somehow gives me ease knowing that I should not fear of making a wrong decision. Things happen in life no matter how cautious you and knowing that you can still have the chance of turning it around even when you are at your lowest is calming.

Life is tough but sometimes we are just too afraid of failure that we are paralysed at our current state, not wanting to take the next step.

Choices & A Train Ride

It was peak hour.

People were rushing back from work wearing formal office attire and carrying suitcases, they quickly pulled out their phones from their pockets once they entered the train to entertain themselves of what I assumed would be a long ride home. Some had their ears plugged in with earphones drowning out the last few hours of the day with music of their choice while others were busy chatting on the phone finishing up the last of their work for the day. As I stood, watching the movement of people into and out of the car, a thought occurred.

These people chose this life.

I am a huge advocate for living our dreams, for breaking out of the 9-5 work life and to not conform to the norms of society but looking at these people on the train, with their tired faces but glad expressions, it gave me a bit of a surprise.

These people chose this life, the life of working 9-5 and being an average person in an average world. These people chose to work for someone else, doing something that in a perfect world, they would not do. These people chose to answer to a higher management, chose to wait for the weekends and holidays for relaxation and chose to have most of their time taken up by work.

Therefore, it would be unfair for me to say that these people are conforming to society’s norms because they are too lazy to do otherwise, or giving a generalization that these people are doing something that they hate. Instead, the look on the faces on the train showed otherwise. Even though they could have done something else instead of being just an employee, they chose not to. They chose to be an employee and they seemed contented with it.

Sometimes happiness comes from simple things, like having a job, raising a family, or coming home to see your children happy. Some people might not have the interest in owning a big company, being a celebrity or just being really wealthy. Instead, they would rather have a quiet and peaceful life where whatever they ever need is there. So, are they then not successful?

The definition of success is unique to each individual. You do not need to own a multi-billion dollar business nor have a tech empire to be considered successful, instead, each individual set their own criteria on what it means to be. Some want to be rich, while others, just want to work on a farm on the outskirts of society. Therefore, it is not right for someone to impose their idea of success and deemed others a failure.

Sigmund Freud once introduced the idea of the Pleasure Principle which inclines everyone towards easy physical and emotional rewards. Those people on the train had that look of contentment on their face. They were happy with how their lives are panning out and I’m sure some are even enjoying the work that they are doing. Those people are acting based on the Pleasure Principle where they are able to achieve a monthly salary (physical), and job security (emotional).

Therefore, it surprised me how you do not need to achieve something wonderous like building an empire or owning a big house (though that would still be good) to be successful. As long as the choices you make are in your own best interest, it is enough.

So, as the train slowly came to a stop at my station, I alighted with a whole new perspective on life. It was not a wasted train ride after all.