Maybe, it isn’t time.

When you’re at this age, you will soon realise that you may no longer be in the same phase of life as your friends. Some of your friends might have gotten engaged, while others are succeeding greatly in life, and then there’s you, still struggling through university. At this age, you will realise that some of your friends are ahead of you in life, while there are others lagging behind. At this age, you will realise that it is okay to be in your own phase of life, that it is okay to sometimes be slower (or faster) than other people, that things happen at your own pace.

At this age, you will realise that some of your friends are ahead of you in life, while there are others lagging behind. At this age, you will realise that it is okay to be in your own phase of life, that it is okay to sometimes be slower (or faster) than other people, that is it okay for things to happen at your own pace.

I guess, at this age, I realise that sometimes, some things are just not happening because it isn’t the right time yet and that one shouldn’t rush them.

We just need patience.

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Are we filling our time with empty, mindless busyness?

This is actually something that I am really worried about. The worry that I am filling up my time with mindless busyness instead of doing actual work.

To be honest, I think I have been doing ‘work’ that doesn’t really benefit my life in any way.

I think it is because it is easy for me to give in to temptations and procrastination especially so if my body is just exhausted from all the other activities that I have engaged in.

It is a constant battle to do what I should be doing with what I want to be doing. And I feel that I’m slowly losing that battle.

A constant reminder is needed.

I’m just disappointed in myself for giving in too easily because, deep inside, I know that I have so much potential to succeed.

Honestly, I wonder how those high-achievers and all-rounders do it. It amazes me every single time.

I’m Twenty-One But…

A chapter ends and another begins. I turn 21 today.

Many people celebrate their 21 with a birthday party. They invite their closest of friends and family to celebrate that special day with them.

For me?

Nah. I’ve never enjoyed parties nor will I ever think of hosting one. Apart from the financial burden it might have on me just for a day of smiles, being an introvert, I never liked being around too many people at any one time. I hate to divide my attention across many people and would rather spend long hours with just a few.

Maybe you might disagree but I prefer a day of quiet and reflection.

To tell you the truth, I never liked the commemoration of my birthday, it reminds me too much of growing older. Each new digit that adds on to my age comes with added burden and responsibilities. Not only that, it forces me to face the fact that my life will never be the same again; parents will get older, unfortunate events will happen, people will move out of your life and so on. Reality just kicks you in the balls annually, you feel me?

In the past, when I envisioned myself as a 21-year-old man, I’ve always thought of myself as a self-sustaining, successful person with a life that is geared, set and ready to go. Looking at it now, not so much. Maybe I did achieve some minor successes, e.g. getting into a university. However, a plan for life? Not really.

But maybe, I have to look back to truly appreciate how far I have come.


Here’s a rough timeline of my life thus far:

Kandang Kerbau Hospital (KKH) → 13th December 1995

Jurong Town Primary School → 2001 – 2002

Lakeside Primary School → 2002 – 2007

Yuan Ching Secondary School → 2008 – 2011

Catholic Junior College → 2012 – 2013

Worked at Yuan Ching Secondary School as a Relief Teacher → February 2014 – May 2014

Basic Military Training (BMT) at Pulau Tekong in the Singapore Armed Forces (SAF) →
May 2014 – July 2014

Singapore Civil Defence Force → July 2014 – March 2016

National University of Singapore → August 2016 – Whenever


“In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”

If you have been following me for a while, you would know that memories matter to me a lot. I document almost anything interesting in my life, taking videos and photographs of things that might not ever happen again.

As of recently, I’ve been trying my best to live life. To cherish every moment. Even more so as I turn 21 because I know that anything that happens from here on has a conscious and direct effect on me e.g. a death of a loved one.

After living for about a quarter of your expected lifespan, you start to realise that there really isn’t much time. Therefore, I think that with the time we have left, we should not waste a single moment of it.

So, what’s next for me?

I’m not really sure.

I just have to live every moment and see where that takes me.

 

 

 

Year 1, Semester 1

These are just 10 things that I’ve learnt in Year 1, Semester 1 in university:
  1. There is always time to do things, it is just up to you to plan your time properly. Every single minute of the day must be treasured and used to the max.
  2. Quality is better than quantity. Be it in terms of revision hours, sleep hours or even time spent socialising.
  3. 20 Seconds of courage. We need to always be brave for just a mere 20 seconds and step out of our comfort zone. We need to be brave to try new things and talk to new people.
  4. Ask, ask, ask. If you do not know something, ask. Don’t be shy because everyone is there learning too. You might actually do them a favour by asking. Also, ask your professors and TAs. Make use of them.
  5. It is important to make friends. The more friendships you make, the easier your life is in university. The more options that you open yourself up to.
  6. There’s always lessons to learn from everyone. Each and everyone in university has at least 18 years of life experience. Tap on that.
  7. Sometimes, we need to learn to stop fighting a futile battle. Sometimes, you just couldn’t get your head around certain modules or what the module is asking from you. Just recognise that sometimes we need to put our weapons down and re-strategise.
  8. Learn to accept that sometimes, hard work does not pay off. There’s always someone better than you or you’re just not good at it. Disappointment can creep in when you get a bad result. Learn to stand up again, take a breather and move on quickly.
  9. Make mistakes. That’s the only way to learn.
  10. You are never alone. There’s always someone out there experiencing the same problem you are.

 

Setting Up for Success

People may look down or goal settings but I assure you that it is one of the most important things that you can do to be a step closer to success.

Many, if not, all successful people have goals that they have set for themselves, be it long-term or short-term. And it is through these goals that allow them to achieve whatever they have achieved.

I, personally, take goal settings seriously and even though I may not have the proof of the results, I’m still learning along the way. Maybe one day, I will be able to show that proof to everyone.

 

A Complex Equation for Success

The effort that you put in might not pay off.

But I think that it is worth a try.

We wouldn’t know how far will go if we never put in the work in the first place.

So, instead of dwelling on our failures,

we should pick ourselves up,

re-evaluate,

and move on, not making the same mistakes again.

It is hard to accept failure after all the effort that you’ve put in. But then we have to remember that this is life and it will never be the way we envisioned it.

I failed in something and I am hard on myself if I ever do. Therefore, this is a reminder for myself. A reminder that I should grab the rope of success and pick myself up. This failure is just a momentary setback, a reminder that hard work is just a part of a more complex equation to success, though, a big part of it.

 

A Different Set of Clockwork

We are all genetically different, each of us having our own set of clockwork that runs us.

All of us have our own strengths and weaknesses and it is up to us to discover what they are.

Once we are able to come to terms with them, to understand what they are and why they are, we’ll be self-aware enough to build up from there.

Many of us are not aware of our own strengths and weaknesses thus, making it hard to know what we need to nurture.

One thing is for certain, to achieve what we truly want, we need to work on our strengths. We need to nurture our strengths to reach new heights because that is what we are innately good at, our talent.

No matter how hard we work on our weaknesses, it’ll never reach the level of the Greats because we lack a key ingredient, talent.

I have always been an advocate of finding, discovering and understanding oneself. Today is not any different. Therefore, I urge all of you to take the time to think, ponder and evaluate yourself. Understand your strengths and weaknesses.

Be self-aware.