In the past few days, I have been thinking a lot about happiness and what it should entail.
I mean, everybody has their own opinion of what happiness is but I think that there’s one thing that I truly want to achieve before I can say that I am truly happy:
Money is not a concern.
I mean, every single day I observed that the things that we want to experience and do are always limited by money such as going on a holiday or trying out that new restaurant at that scenic place. Now, let’s say that we remove that factor of money. Wouldn’t we be able to live freely, unlimited by the confines of our financial levels?
Wouldn’t we then be free to do whatever we set our minds to, whatever we truly want to achieve?
I guess so.
But now, here lies the question of how we should go about doing that.
Just want to say that I’m thankful for everything that has happened in my life thus far.
University life hasn’t been easy and I doubt that it ever will be but the experiences and friendships that I’ve made are worth it.
I am blessed to be able to meet wonderful people who are just filled with life and happiness, forge friendships with them and also able to fill the painful days of hustling with some sunshine.
In the last three months, a lot has changed, and a lot hasn’t but throughout those 3 months, I have to say that I enjoyed every moment of it, from the long hours of studying in school to the sweaty silat training sessions.
I just feel grateful today and I want to let everyone know how grateful I am that you’ve impacted my life positively in one way or another.
Who do you care about?
Recall the happy memories that you had with them, the smiles, the laughter, that fuzzy feeling that you feel inside.
What are you grateful for?
Think about the shelter above your head, the bed that you sleep on every night, the food that you eat, the job that you have, the people around you.
What keeps you going? Think about the things that motivate you to persevere in life. They can be a goal that you want to achieve, a person that you care about or even a self-responsibility that you have for yourself.
Smile because there are worse things that could’ve happened to you.
I was all prepared for sleep; a cup of water, the air-conditioner blowing and the lights switched off, and that was when I realised that I was happy, I was truly happy.
You know that you are really happy when there’s a fluttering feeling in your chest when you smile, or when you experience an emotion that uplifts you and you realise that nothing else truly matters.
I experienced that.
It was a wonderful feeling.
I guess I was happy because everything has just been going wonderfully for me: I’m finally in NUS, I’ve been seeing my friends and socialising a lot, I’ve been enjoying taking photographs, and an article of mine was accepted by a Publication on Medium… just to name a few.
I can only see an upward slope from here and that made me feel very optimistic about the future.
However, I’ve always believed that after each bout of happiness, there will be intense stress and vice versa but while the happiness still lasts, I think I will grab it by the reins and hold on to it for as long as I possibly can.
Yesterday, I went to watch ‘Me Before You’ starring Emilia Clarke and Sam Claflin and it was beautiful. Without giving you any spoilers, I find that the story is cute and sometimes heart-breaking. ‘Me Before You’ is about a girl, Louisa Clark (played by Emilia Clarke) who was hired as a caretaker for William Traynor (played by Sam Claflin) who suffered a spinal injury after an accident causing him to be paralysed from the neck down. A romance developed between them as Louisa Clark tried her very best to make William Traynor change his mind when she found out that he wanted to have euthanasia.
To me, Louisa Clark struck me as a confident person who is completely comfortable with the way she is and she exudes the complete meaning of being self-aware. She understood that she might not be the brightest person out there and she learnt to accept that. Instead, she bet on her strengths: family-oriented, loving, do not care about the opinions of others and hard-working. She helped her family where she can by sacrificing her studies to work, she love helping others and treated them kindly, she embraced her weird fashion sense without the care about what others think and she hustles her way into completing tasks ensuring that they are done the best she could, completely contented with what she does.
Even though she might not have the world, she is completely contented with the way she is and that amazes me because that is what I believe happiness is all about. Happiness is not about the amount of money you make, or the number of houses you own, or the places that you are able to visit but happiness is about being completely appreciative of what you have and doing the things that you love. Be it running, or reading, or spending time with your family, if that is what makes you happy, do it.
We need to stop chasing the material world when we want to be truly happy. Just do what you love and nothing else. It is possible to be contented with the simplest of things!