How do you define yourself?

Do you define yourself by the work that you do, by the results that you bring?

Or do you define yourself by the wealth that you’ve made or the beliefs that you follow?

Hence, comes the question of identity.

How does one define themselves?

Can one have more than one identity, more than one definition to the self?

I believe, in the future that we are creating, there can be.

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It’s All About Fitting In, Isn’t It?

Isn’t it?

Since we first enter school, all of us just wants to fit in, to be part of the crowd, to be accepted.

So, we decided to do all kinds of things that would allow us to be accepted. We dress differently, we change the way we talk, we do dumb things.

But is it all worth it?

Fitting in?

Maybe, maybe not.

Fitting in gives us a sense of social acceptance, knowing that we are part of a larger group. We are social creatures, we feel safer around others. By fitting in, we can depend on others for help, for comfort and maybe in evolutionary terms, for our own safety.

However, is there a fine line that we need to draw between being socially accepted into a group and discarding our unique identity?

Each of us is a unique individual with our own set of quirks and talents. As unique as we are as individuals, there is always an interest of ours that connects us with some other individual out there, a common interest.

Many individuals come together to form a social group. The personality of that group depends on the type of people that make up that group. A group full of motivated individuals would be motivated, a group full of artists would be highly inclined in creativity, and a group full rednecks would be loud, obnoxious and insane.

The fine line has to be drawn when that group starts to devour you, putting pressure on you to change against your own free will. They impose on you that you have to act a certain way, do certain things or dress a certain way to be accepted into the group.

I personally think that if you start to feel like you are not yourself, you are no longer being accepted but being controlled. Don’t think that you are fitting in when you’re in that situation. Find others.

I feel that being accepted shouldn’t come with unnecessary pressure to change and be someone else. The group should embrace you for being who you are and not wishing who you are not.

Find that group that you fit in naturally and not one that is artificial.

Our Voice, Our Identity

You can learn a lot about a person just by listening to their voice.

By listening to how their vocal chords vibrate,

How their tongue moves as they pronounce a syllable,

How it clicked against the roof of their mouth,

How the sounds escape their lips.

You can learn a lot about a person,

By listening to how they pronounce their words,

How much air they let out after each sentence,

The speed and rhythm of their speech,

Their intonation and choices of words to stress.

There is so much that we can learn from a person’s voice alone. You can tell what emotional state they are in, the amount of self-confidence they have, and even what their careers are.

It is not a well-known fact but our voice is our identity and we should guard it safely.

Who Am I?

This is a question most of us will ask ourselves some time in our lives. Who Am I? Who Are You?

Am I the combination of both my father and mother or the average of them? Am I the average of the 5 people I’m closest to? Am I what I enjoy, food, books and family? Am I the person people think I am or the person I think people think I am? Hmm… what about this, am I what society made me or am I what society labelled me?

Who Am I???

There are many factors that affect who we think we are and affect what make us who we are, from the community we grow in to the videos on the internet that we watch. These factors influence our choices and decisions that we make, they influence our likes and dislikes and most notably, they affect our interests. You might be interested in making music one day after watching a rock star perform but later on, you might instead be interested in science because you find it fascinating.

However, this is not to say that we are the product of our environment but instead, that our environment plays a huge role in making us who we are as a person.

I believe that the definition of who we are is always changing, always evolving from one state to the next as we continue to learn and discover new things. Our interests change with time and thus, also who we are.

I understand that sometimes it is difficult to find out our true selves, our true passions, our true character, but fret not, because ultimately, we choose who we want to be, who we strive to be. God had given us free will to allow us to choose who we want to become and not what society tells us who we are.

You are you so do you and don’t try to be anyone else.