2017: 365 Days of Lessons

I’ve decided.

This year I’m going to document the lessons I’ve learnt every single day, be it academic lessons, life lessons, advice from people, thoughts or ideas that occurred to me.

Why?

Because I’ve realised that there is so much that we can learn in our lives, every day, every single moment, but unfortunately, we forget them soon after we learnt/thought about them.

Therefore, by documenting these ideas and lessons into a single book (or maybe on my website or on Evernote), I can refer to them and assimilate them into my daily life.

Hmm… Maybe an audio recording would be better? Let’s see…


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Maybe, it isn’t time.

When you’re at this age, you will soon realise that you may no longer be in the same phase of life as your friends. Some of your friends might have gotten engaged, while others are succeeding greatly in life, and then there’s you, still struggling through university. At this age, you will realise that some of your friends are ahead of you in life, while there are others lagging behind. At this age, you will realise that it is okay to be in your own phase of life, that it is okay to sometimes be slower (or faster) than other people, that things happen at your own pace.

At this age, you will realise that some of your friends are ahead of you in life, while there are others lagging behind. At this age, you will realise that it is okay to be in your own phase of life, that it is okay to sometimes be slower (or faster) than other people, that is it okay for things to happen at your own pace.

I guess, at this age, I realise that sometimes, some things are just not happening because it isn’t the right time yet and that one shouldn’t rush them.

We just need patience.

I’m Twenty-One But…

A chapter ends and another begins. I turn 21 today.

Many people celebrate their 21 with a birthday party. They invite their closest of friends and family to celebrate that special day with them.

For me?

Nah. I’ve never enjoyed parties nor will I ever think of hosting one. Apart from the financial burden it might have on me just for a day of smiles, being an introvert, I never liked being around too many people at any one time. I hate to divide my attention across many people and would rather spend long hours with just a few.

Maybe you might disagree but I prefer a day of quiet and reflection.

To tell you the truth, I never liked the commemoration of my birthday, it reminds me too much of growing older. Each new digit that adds on to my age comes with added burden and responsibilities. Not only that, it forces me to face the fact that my life will never be the same again; parents will get older, unfortunate events will happen, people will move out of your life and so on. Reality just kicks you in the balls annually, you feel me?

In the past, when I envisioned myself as a 21-year-old man, I’ve always thought of myself as a self-sustaining, successful person with a life that is geared, set and ready to go. Looking at it now, not so much. Maybe I did achieve some minor successes, e.g. getting into a university. However, a plan for life? Not really.

But maybe, I have to look back to truly appreciate how far I have come.


Here’s a rough timeline of my life thus far:

Kandang Kerbau Hospital (KKH) → 13th December 1995

Jurong Town Primary School → 2001 – 2002

Lakeside Primary School → 2002 – 2007

Yuan Ching Secondary School → 2008 – 2011

Catholic Junior College → 2012 – 2013

Worked at Yuan Ching Secondary School as a Relief Teacher → February 2014 – May 2014

Basic Military Training (BMT) at Pulau Tekong in the Singapore Armed Forces (SAF) →
May 2014 – July 2014

Singapore Civil Defence Force → July 2014 – March 2016

National University of Singapore → August 2016 – Whenever


“In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”

If you have been following me for a while, you would know that memories matter to me a lot. I document almost anything interesting in my life, taking videos and photographs of things that might not ever happen again.

As of recently, I’ve been trying my best to live life. To cherish every moment. Even more so as I turn 21 because I know that anything that happens from here on has a conscious and direct effect on me e.g. a death of a loved one.

After living for about a quarter of your expected lifespan, you start to realise that there really isn’t much time. Therefore, I think that with the time we have left, we should not waste a single moment of it.

So, what’s next for me?

I’m not really sure.

I just have to live every moment and see where that takes me.

 

 

 

Setting Up for Success

People may look down or goal settings but I assure you that it is one of the most important things that you can do to be a step closer to success.

Many, if not, all successful people have goals that they have set for themselves, be it long-term or short-term. And it is through these goals that allow them to achieve whatever they have achieved.

I, personally, take goal settings seriously and even though I may not have the proof of the results, I’m still learning along the way. Maybe one day, I will be able to show that proof to everyone.

 

Important to have adventures

I believe that in life, it is important to have adventures. It is important to explore new places and new environments.

Having adventures do not mean going overseas or to another country where you would need to pay a fair bit of money to travel to but to go on an adventure can be as simple as visiting your neighbourhood park with a friend, going wild.

The important thing is that we move out and experience the world.

Who knows, you might find something new, out there, somewhere.

 

Money should not be a concern for our happiness

In the past few days, I have been thinking a lot about happiness and what it should entail.

I mean, everybody has their own opinion of what happiness is but I think that there’s one thing that I truly want to achieve before I can say that I am truly happy:

Money is not a concern.

I mean, every single day I observed that the things that we want to experience and do are always limited by money such as going on a holiday or trying out that new restaurant at that scenic place. Now, let’s say that we remove that factor of money. Wouldn’t we be able to live freely, unlimited by the confines of our financial levels?

Wouldn’t we then be free to do whatever we set our minds to, whatever we truly want to achieve?

I guess so.

But now, here lies the question of how we should go about doing that.

 

Season of Examinations

It is the season of examinations. Well, maybe not for the younger students, but for the students sitting for their A Level examinations and undergrads sitting for their Finals.

During this period, many would already be hustling in full drive mode from the early morning till late at night. Some even go to the extent of having overnight study sessions till daybreak. Even though I feel that sometimes such methods that they adopt are insane, I admire the drive in their souls to score well and push past the pain of sleep-deprivation. I wanted to go to one actually but being a person who needs sleep to function, I decided against it.

As we go through this constant hustling and painful hard work, I’d just like to drop a reminder for you and for me so that we can remember why we’re doing all of this in the first place.

Why are we studying? Why do we even go to a university? Why bother?

 

Each of us has our own reasons to go to a university. For most, it is to get an education, for some, it is to please our parents and society, and for a small handful, it is to chase knowledge. But collectively, it is to have a chance of a better future.

But here’s the thing about wanting something better. We have to work for it. I’m sure all of you have heard of a variation or two of the phrase, “Success doesn’t come easy,” and it is so true.

Especially in a world that we live in today where competition is everywhere, success becomes a mountain peak that is steadily becoming harder to climb to, but does this mean that it is impossible for us to achieve it? No.

Studying is a way for us to achieve that success that we want. The pains of the late night study sessions, the struggle of trying to understand concepts and the futile attempts of maintaining a work-life balance, are all part of that process.

But all of that would feel easier if our intentions are true.

We shouldn’t put the burden of someone else’s dreams or opinions on our shoulders. That is something that is truly unsustainable.

I believe that one should put themselves first, by putting our dreams first, that, I think is a way to live a fulfilling life.