The Lies People Tell Themselves

“Some lies took hold and spread, crackling with excitement, and no longer needed to be fed. But then these were no longer your lies. They had a life and shape of their own, and there was no controlling them.” —The Lie Tree by Frances Hardinge

I am fine.

I am better than this.

I’m okay, I’m okay, I’m okay…

It’s not my fault, it is never my fault, it was always them!

I’m capable, I don’t need anyone’s help.

I’m doing something good, aren’t I?

Just one more.

Okay, this will be the last.

I love myself, I love myself, I love myself…

I have friends, good friends.

I love her, don’t I?

I’m the worst person alive.

Useless, I’m useless.

I’m never going to be good enough.

I’m done, I can’t do this anymore…


We tell ourselves lies every single day, lies that we hope to become truths one day or lies that would make us feel how we think we should feel. Maybe, sometimes we don’t think that we deserve to be happy and so we lie to ourselves to put ourselves down, skewing our perceptions and how we see ourselves as a person.

 

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Lost in a Story

I am lost in a story, entranced by the scene that unfolds before me. Amazed by the writer’s ability to capture a piece of my soul and place it in the world that they had created.

I was lost in a book, a story, a fictional life of a fictional character, captivated by its peaks and able to relate with its lows.

The book was ‘The Lie Tree’ by Frances Hardinge.

As I type this, I am in the last chapter of this book which clinched the Costa Book of the Year for the year 2015, I can see why.

A part of me felt as if it was trapped inside the book, looking down on the characters as their lives unfold, judging and questioning their every action and consideration.

A good book is when you lose the track of time when reading — when time doesn’t matter anymore — and all you want is to continue reading.

And, that was a good book.

Monthly Challenge #2

  1. Fitness:
    a) Bar Brothers’ Requirements
    b) Deadlift 140kg X 5
  2. Read:
    a) Being Mortal by Atul Gawande
    b) Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook by Gary Vaynerchuk
    c) The Bands of Mourning by Brandon Sanderson
    d) Landline by Rainbow Rowell
  3. Produce eight videos
  4. Take a photograph and post a mini story on Instagram every day

The above would be my Monthly Challenge for the period of 1st June – 1st July 2016.

🙂

Stories

Stories. They can make the heart yearn, eyes tear and lungs to spill out laughter.

Everyone loves a good story. From the moment we are born, we have always been fascinated by the sound and the intonation of the voices of our mothers as they read to us stories. As a baby, with eyes wide, we look at our mother’s lips moving as stories come flowing out. We are amazed especially by stories with heroes and mythical beings like dragons and flying horses. Soon, we aspire to be like such heroes, to be strong and skilled like Hercules or as bad-ass as Batman. As we grow up, our fascination for stories did not wane. We watch movies, read thick novels and even create stories of our own. We are basically obsessed.

I believe we are drawn into stories because of several things, the hero, the climax and a happy ending. The hero represents someone that we envisioned to become, someone that is brave and strong and maybe intelligent but being a hero, he has to have a minor flaw be it physically or emotionally. Next is the climax, the part where a problem is delivered to the hero and thus, the hero has to solve it despite his/her flaw. The struggle for the hero to overcome this adversity is fascinating to us as it reflects our own troubles in real life. It reminds us that even though the hero is almost perfect, he/she still has that flaw that makes them human or just like us. It allows for relatability and connection between the audience and the characters in the story. Finally, the ending. Most stories end on a happy note such as a Prince saved the Princess and they get married happily ever after or the hero finally managed to overcome such horrible adversity and brought the villain to justice. It reminds us that good will always prevail and that whatever adversity we face, it is still within our power to find a solution to it.

Next is the climax, the part where a problem is delivered to the hero and thus, the hero has to solve it despite his/her flaw. The struggle for the hero to overcome this adversity is fascinating to us as it reflects our own troubles in real life. It reminds us that even though the hero is almost perfect, he/she still has that flaw that makes them human or just like us. It allows for relatability and connection between the audience and the characters in the story. Finally, the ending. Most stories end on a happy note such as a Prince saved the Princess and they get married happily ever after or the hero finally managed to overcome such horrible adversity and brought the villain to justice. It reminds us that good will always prevail and that whatever adversity we face, it is still within our power to find a solution to it.

Finally, the ending. Most stories end on a happy note such as a Prince saved the Princess and they get married happily ever after or the hero finally managed to overcome such horrible adversity and brought the villain to justice. It reminds us that good will always prevail and that whatever adversity we face, it is still within our power to find a solution to it.

As we dwell into this topic of stories, maybe I should also remind all of us that everyone also have a story, a story that they might want to share. Sometimes, it could be a story of adversity, trials and tribulations such as a death of a loved one or the events leading to a divorce. It could also be a story of happiness such as the moment their baby was born or when they fell in love for the first time. Good or bad, happy or sad, all of us have a story to tell. It is up to us whether we want to listen to them.

Stories are fascinating and it is especially fascinating to me. It does not matter whether it is a story from a book or in real life, stories are stories and I believe that if we listen closely and analyse the stories being told, we can learn a great deal from it.

Maybe I should document more stories.

Amazed by Stories

I love stories, especially fantasy fiction.

Recently, I just completed reading The Kingkiller Chronicles #1 and #2 and they were amazing. I cannot wait for the third book to come out! Anyway, those two books are good examples of books that I can easily get obsessed with due to the depth of the story, the unexpected twists and turns and especially the character creation. I love it when the author is able to create a character so relatable and so real that somewhat, you thought that you really knew the character.

The Kingkiller Chronicles have amazing characters that are able to pull you into the story by the words they said and the actions that they take. Furthermore, the author was able to maintain a sense of realness about them by allowing the characters to take express in multiple emotions throughout their story in the books, from sadness to anger to happiness to lust and to love. It is such stories that excites me and drags me into its very depths, soon, I find myself engrossed in the story spending hours just reading.

Apart from wonderful character development and creation, I am amazed by the way authors are able to create a whole world including a very solid lore and history. In the Kingkiller Chronicles, there were several key points that the author shared about the history of the land but apart from that, the rest was shrouded in mystery slowly revealing itself one by one as we go through deeper into the story. That kept the books exciting to read because we will never know what adventure would the protaganist embark on.

Another favourite of mine when reading fantasy fiction is the way these characters speak to each other. I am forever amazed by the way one character would approach another and the words that they used. The phrases that they said during courting or just merely between two men in a bar. What I would always do is to read quotes from the book and memorise the way they say it and maybe… just maybe I could apply it in real life. Here are some of my favourites from the Kingkiller Chronicles:

“It is a word. Words are pale shadows of forgotten names. As names have power, words have power. Words can light fires in the minds of men. Words can wring tears from the hardest hearts. There are seven words that will make a person love you. There are ten words that will break a strong man’s will. But a word is nothing but a painting of a fire. A name is the fire itself.”

 

“If you want to know the truth of who you are, walk until not a person knows your name. Travel is the great leveler, the great teacher, bitter as medicine, crueler than mirror-glass. A long stretch of road will teach you more about yourself than a hundred years of quiet introspection.”

Oh, there is so much more quotes that I would love to share and I am literally feeling so excited just reading them. Oh, how much I love stories. I guess, one day, I would love to be a great storyteller too.